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What Makes A Good Child?

by Martha Simmonds

Due to today’s technology, our bonds with our friends; family, and kids are weakened. We are no longer supporting each other morally. That is why it is very important to help your child build a strong reliable personality depth, to support and sustain his weaknesses.

In this article, we are going to help you teach your child the basics of communication skills to support his surroundings and make him adapt to his environment.

Good social skills

In order for kids to build strong reliable peer relationships, they need good social kids first. However, the purpose of acquiring effective social skills goes beyond the aspect of social acceptance. Social skills need an active audit as the kid grows, parents need to keep an eye on him as time passes to spot any change as it occurs, and they begin to notice if the behavior changes or not. This is an acquired skill, it’s not something to be born with.

Kids who master the art of social skills, easily get along with their classmates, and teachers.

Friendship is something that helps the kid to solve problems more often, as it puts him in delicate situations, that require good analysis and communication, those bad and good times he often gets with those friends will make him more immune to negative energy.

Speaking of negative energy, sometimes your child is getting bullied verbally without you being aware of it, bullied because of his/her name for example make sure to choose your baby’s name wisely.

The aspect of acquiring social skills for kids is a significant part of the personality pattern. They start to notice a wide type of people’s personality depth. This alone will minimize the danger they may get themselves into, such as kidnapping for example.

Listening and sharing

Listening isn’t just all about not saying anything and staying quiet, it is about collecting and treating, what someone else is saying; Listening also is a critical component of healthy communication. After all, much of the learning in school depends on a child’s ability to listen to what the teacher is talking about in class.

Storing up the necessary material, taking notes, and thinking about what is being said become even more important as your child grows academically. Offering your child plenty of opportunities to practice listening can strengthen this skill.

It is very significant that your child learns how to listen, which will reinforce his adult life later with his colleagues, with his boss, or even with his romantic partner. The stress can also be caused by the abusive use of digital devices. Giving your kids those devices is not a smart move, outdoors activities instead are a very efficient substitute.

A good practice for listening, after you’ve read them a story, ask them to tell you a quick summary of the story, this will help them spot and summarize the important events of the story, and memorize it.

Help your child remember his classmate’s name, that is a good tactic to get close to them. You must teach and give them ideas for some baby names.

Sharing is very important, in fact, it shows that the person is strongly intelligent socially, and strongly reliable. That will efficiently support your child’s personality.

IMPORTANT: Your child will refuse the idea of sharing at first, that is extremely normal. Being aware of this is part of the process and is very relevant to achieve your goal.

As your child grows, he begins to go separate ways from you, he will attempt to achieve independence by himself and begins to reach the urge of wanting to acquire stuff, screaming “ Mine ! “ from his heart. That Is where his selfishness is born.

The ability to get attached to things and to people begins to grow, like toddlers who don’t want to share their toys, or babies who get attached to their mommies, as it becomes part of their self-beings.

Using empathy to provoke sharing action from your child is extremely effective. The ability to make your child view things from other’s points of view and perspectives.

At the age of three, kids start to anticipate their own actions, they acquire the awareness of the consequences of their actions. This is the starting point of empathy, if you help your child reinforce this aspect of their personality, it will lead to great results.

Your child needs your assistance, they won’t share unless you insist. However there is an effective method to use in order to achieve great results; Try to find a doll of their favorite Cartoon Character, it makes them believe that it is real and they must take care of it, and teach them to share their stuff with the doll. This will reflect his action on his classmates too, and so on. “Sharing is caring “is an important pattern of your child’s personality.

Even at the age of three or four, your child begins and proceeds to choose and select whom to share his possessions with. A child may keep a few precious possessions just for himself. He will probably not share his treasured teddy or favorite doll as you would share your wedding ring. Support your kid’s ownership and possessiveness over his belonging.

Don’t force your child to share, in exchange, create attitudes and an environment that encourages your child to want to share. There is strength and power in possessed items. To you, they’re only meaningless toys. To a child, they’re a valuable collection of items that have lasted for a very long term, years to assemble and collect.

Respect the normal possessiveness of children while you support the idea of sharing. Then pay attention to how your child behaves in a group, you’ll find out more about your child and about what kind of guidance he’ll need, based on what type of person he is in the middle of this group, is he for example the caring one? Is he the aggressive one?

What happens if your child has no social skills?

In this case, if your children don’t have the social skills is bad for them. It increases the chances of making him stress all time because he lacks dealing with the intensive situations that occur with his friends or teachers at school.

For instance, what happens if your kid is unable to communicate? In other words, he lacks the ability to speak for himself. This possibility is most likely to be shown as physical symptoms, or often as a sudden change of behaviors such as anger issues, screaming and yelling; Aggressive attitude, etc.

Anxiety makes children behave in a weird and confusing way for parents. So often parents don’t know how to deal with it so they either ignore it or use the punishment tactic. But it is very significant to acknowledge the relationship between those behaviors and attitudes to the feeling of stress and anxiety. Some common behavioral signs of these two elements include:

1. Attitude change such as anger issues, short temper, and aggressive reaction
2. Growth of a stressful habit, like hair scratching or nail-biting.
3. Lack of concentration and focus.
4. Fears that come in different ways ( of darkness, of strangers, etc.)
5. Getting into trouble at school with classmates or teachers.
6. Declining the idea of going to school.

Stress and anxiety can also be exposed in another form like a physical sign. Some of these signs include:

1. Sleep issues or having nightmares
2. Having headaches or stomachaches
3. Losing the appetite or having too much of it.
4. Wetting the bed.

It’s never late to support your child

If you have any issues or struggling with your child, please reach out to a child psychologist as soon as possible, if you have serious handling issues.

You can always save your child, as long as you build bonds with them and care for them, they will notice all your efforts and reach out to you as well, and express more of what they feel and thinks.

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