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So You’re Thinking of Asking the Big Question? Here’s What to Do Before You Propose

by Martha Simmonds

So you’re finally considering asking your partner to marry you? At this point, no one or anything is going to stop you! Pretty sure you’ve already considered why you want to spend the rest of your life with your partner, you are on the same page when it comes to family, have the same financial goals, want the same things out of life, and feel safe with each other. All you have to do now is to pop the question and hope to the high heavens that you get a yes back.

While in all likelihood, you’ll get the most rewarding nod and an excited yes, research reveals that if a marriage has never been discussed, 40% of proposals fail. This could be pretty devastating considering you were planning to spend your life together. Therefore, check and double-check that your partner is on the same page as far as life goals are concerned and they do in fact at some point wish to get married to you.

Once you’re sure that your partner is likely to say yes, here are a few measures you can take to ensure it’s a yes. It requires elaborate planning, consideration, and intentions. Here is what you should do before you ask the big question.

Make Sure You Both Are on the Same Page

As you have already figured out by now, it’s a must to be on the same page with your partner on all grounds before you even think of asking them to marry you. This includes family planning, career goals, where you plan to settle, and a lot more important decisions. However, before all that, it comes to your compatibility with your partner. 

If you are not sure whether you’re compatible with your partner, you can try MysticMag’s new tool, which considers your name, sex, and zodiac sign to give a detailed analysis of how your life will be with your partner and percentile feedback in various categories to give you some clarity.

Make Your Parents Part of It

This might seem like an old-school move but is indeed an absolute masterstroke if you have a good relationship with your would-bes. Not only are you giving heads-up to their parents making it easier for your partner but you can make the occasion grand by asking both sets of parents and special people to be a part of it. 

For this once-in-a-lifetime moment, your partner will admire you for including the most special person in their life, and knowing that they have already given their blessings will make that yes come a little bit easier.

Don’t Forget the Ring

The same research that revealed proposing without discussing marriage is likely to fail 40% of the time also claims that a proposal is 8.5 times more likely to fail if there’s no ring. And it’s quite obvious, is it even a proposal if you don’t put a ring on it? 

Therefore, choosing the right diamond engagement ring and the right size is pretty important. Be observant about your partner’s jewelry style and to be very exact about size, simply “borrow” a ring from her collection and take it to the jeweler. 

At the risk of sounding materialistic, a perfect ring eases the yes quite a bit. It’s not the value of the ring but the knowledge of what she would want that matters. So instead of delving into your wallet, delve into what your partner would like her engagement ring to be.

Find a Meaningful Location

This is critical when it comes to popping the big question. The research reveals that of all marriage proposals, almost half of them (45%) end up being rejected because they were made in public. You don’t want to repeat the same mistake. The moment you propose will be the most intimate moment of the rest of your life together and it should rather be personal and meaningful. 

Find a location that holds a special meaning to both of you and a special time of the year. The Marriage Proposal Survey by Chillisauce reveals that Valentine’s Day and Christmas are some of the best times to propose. But it doesn’t have to be that for you. It can be anything from birthdays to the date of your actual first date. Whatever you do, make it intimate and very special to both of you.

Remember What You Want to Say

This is quite obvious and need not be said but bear in mind that emotions will be at an all-time high and it would be criminal to forget your lines at this point. Keep it short and crips that will be easier for you to repeat but would tell your partner how much it would mean to you if they agreed to marry you. And oh! Don’t leave out the “Will you marry me?” part, that’s pretty critical to the proposal.

This is all you need to know before popping the big question to your better half and hopefully getting engaged. Just ensure you have a photographer on ready and everything planned perfectly so your partner doesn’t get an inkling of what you’ve planned. All that said and done, good luck and see you on your wedding day!

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